David Cox Counselling

You are holding it all together, but are you actually living fully?

On paper, you have the life you were supposed to want. You are capable, you’re responsible, and people rely on you. On the outside, everything looks fine. But if you’re honest, do you feel lost, do you feel disconnected from your own life, perhaps you feel numb in moments where you expect to feel joy?

Maybe you may wake up feeling heavy, tense, stressed, you might find yourself shutting down to your partner, reacting to small things, or just exhausted by the unseen effort of holding up the mask of 'being fine' every day.

You are functioning, but feeling disconnected from living fully. It’s common to feel exhausted by daily life. You can feel there is a bit of you that doesn’t feel right, that is niggling away stopping you from really living.

This isn't a failure; it's a survival strategy that has run its course.

Likely, you got here by being good at suppressing your needs. As a child, you may have learned that to be loved or safe, you had to hide your true self. Your brain is keeping you in a state of high alert or shutdown, even though you are safe now.

Those strategies worked then, but they are keeping you small and exhausted.